Honoring Pia’s SAHD

My husband, Rhenee, is a SAHD (Stay-At-Home-Dad).  What is a SAHD? I ‘googled’ SAHD and this is what Wikipedia says:

“A stay-at-home dad (alternatively, stay at home father, house dad, SAHD, househusband, or house-spouse) is a father who is the main caregiver of the children and is the homemaker of the household. As families have evolved, the practice of being a stay-at-home dad has become more common.”

I know it is not a very common practice where we are based (we’re currently based in Brunei) or even in most of South East Asia I’m guessing, because most families I know have the Full Time Working Dads and/or Moms while the children are taken cared of at home by secondary caretakers, or a ‘yaya’ as we call them in the Filipino vernacular.  However for our humble young family, Rhenee being a SAHD is what “works” and in my opinion, was and still is the best choice that we have made for Pia.

Choosing to be a SAHD was not an easy decision for the both of us, but given our present situation, it was the decision that made the most sense to us when we learned that we were expecting our first child.  At that time, Rhenee was already a voluntary mission worker for our Catholic community, Couples for Christ, and after his mission was over he stayed put in Brunei to be with me for the last few months of my pregnancy until finally giving birth to our miracle baby, Pia on March 26, 2012.

Since that day, Rhenee has not looked back on his professional career but has gone full steam ahead into his SAHD career.  He is Pia’s main caretaker when I am in the office – feeding her, changing her, playing with her, putting her down for naps, giving her baths, teaching her how to pray, reading to her, teaching her songs, etc.  He’s also a driver, cooks all our meals at home and tries his best to keep the house tidy and in order (the general cleaning, laundry and ironing are my tasks after office).  And on top of that, he earns extra income by doing part-time work providing transport and website set-up/maintenance services.

I know that some people don’t fully support and understand the choice that Rhenee made for our family but through this post I’d like to give him honor and thanks for actively choosing to be a SAHD.

Thank you, my dear Bhot, for the choice to be a SAHD.  I love how you take care of Pia and how you selflessly sacrifice your own comforts for her (and me too).  I love how you are as a father and as a husband.  I may not say it often enough, but I really thank you, thank you, thank you for all that you do for our family.  My prayer is that the Lord will continue to bless you with good health and strength so that we will have many more happy years together as a family.  I (we) love you very much!

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